Friday, August 22, 2014

Love Story, Part 3

So, like I said, we knew that night wasn't the official proposal. I assumed in the next days and weeks he would be sorting out the ring, talking to my father, etc. and I could just wait for it. We had vaguely settled on June for the wedding, after both of our semesters ended, so I didn't expect it to be too long before I found him on a knee with a sunset backdrop with a ring in his hand, etc.


We saw each other every weekend and the weekends just started to fly by, one by one by one, with no proposal. I would start out the weekend in a really good place and then by Sunday night and the final car goodbye and the BYE, I ALREADY SAID BYE, I would Jekyll and Hyde into this raging, crazy b. And by that I mean crying and whining and but I thought you were going to propose to me?? whine whine cry.

It (I) was the worst. 

One weekend in particular he was really cluelessly hamming things up with I really want to take you here, I've got big plans tonight, I can't tell you about it but you'll love it, etc and I WAS SURE this weekend was it. But, as it was and is and ever shall be (in my mind at the time), that weekend ended the same as all the rest. Ignition off, love you, goodnight, BYE BYE. 

I was dying a little bit on the inside.

You can go right ahead and hate me now because I recognize how completely dumb this was. But it was really coming from the best of places! I just was ready to start. And waiting/patience/meekness are not my strong suits. You can pray for me.

But apart from my psychotic episodes post-weekends, I could get right back into happy-go-lucky me mode at the start of the week. I knew he would propose on a weekend, because that was really the only time we had. So, once that weekend had checked out to be a strictly non-proposal weekend, I just sort of moved on.

It was a Monday and on Monday's he came over to my family's house for dinner. And I should have known. My mom was in a dress and a full face of makeup. She made a cake.

We had dinner and went up to my room afterwards. And I promise you, there was no engagement on my mind. So when I walked into my bedroom and Kirby shut the door behind me and started to weep, I thought something was terribly, terribly wrong. And when he continued to weep and get down on his knees, I assumed that he was collapsing to the ground in agony. So, naturally, I followed him to the ground, bracing this shoulders with my hands as we got on our knees together. (*The retelling of this makes me laugh so hard it's a eeennsy bit tricky to even type it out). I searched his face for clues and he just cried.

Between sobs he said I...love...you...so...much.

I remember thinking, OK- he loves me, so he isn't ending this, and he has been here all night so I would have known if someone had died. But what could it be?? (Honestly, death was the only think I could think of to justify what was happening)

And then there was a ring.

And there we were, both on our knees, in my little bedroom, my eyes jetting from ring to Kirby, ring to Kirby, ring to Kirby, trying to piece together what had actually just happened. And then I realized the tears were happy, overwhelmed tears. And that nothing was wrong. And that I was on my knees, too.

And so I said yes. (And we laughed, obvi)


And then I heard my brother tell us to come out. He was on the other side of my door with a video camera in hand, where he had been the whole time. Then we ate that cake that my mom had made.

*The best*

Crying disclaimer*
*I feel like I owe Kirby a crying disclaimer. He is definitely a sensitive guy but not in the he gets his feelings hurt way. He is never fussy (like me), and I cry way more than him, but he does have some sure-fire cries over a handful of things and they are (mostly)...
- proposing
- getting married
- babies being born
- Friday Night Lights
- The One Shining Moment montage at the end of the NCAA Tournament
- Gus Johnson (THE SLIPPER STILL FITS!)
- That Macklemore song about The Mariners and Dave Niehaus

So, basically, it's all justified.


If you haven't figure it out by now, he is the best.
xoxoxo




34 comments:

  1. I know it's over, but can we just continue...wedding details, wedding, etc. Please? Lol I was a raging b as well at the end of those non-engagement nights! Ugh the worst!! But your proposal was so sweet. *hearts* Mine was after a dinner, on and my couch. Perfect! Now, how is it to listen to the video recording of the proposal?

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    1. Oh, yeah, I can't leave you hanging without some wedding pics!

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  2. That Macklemore song about the Mariners! He and Daniel are THE SAME PERSON.

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    1. hahah!!! This means you must come to Cali now, no question.

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  3. I LOVE THIS SO MUCH!!! Anthony did something similar with my family & my house & now maybe I have to write my story because he & Kirby are sneaky brothers. I LOVE IT!!!!

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    1. Aw, now I wanna hear yours!! Write it up, girl!

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  4. Super proposal!!! and Friday Night Lights... always tears

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  5. hahaha, I was almost in tears and then I read "Friday Night Lights" and burst out laughing. Such a great story, Blythe- thank you for the nursing-time entertainment!!

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    1. haha!! That's exactly what I was hoping would happen!

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    1. Did he invade your dreams? My friends and I couldn't even handle it. Nervous he's on True Detective.

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  7. Ahhh! I was proposed to in my bedroom, too! The best! Just made me cry while nannying!

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  8. I was thinking how these love stories are sooooooooo much better than any chick flick. Your story made my heart swell. Thank you so much for sharing!

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  9. Awwww, I loved your story! Thank you for sharing it with all of us!

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    1. Thank you (all) for being so sweet with all my sap!

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  10. We've never met, but we have a lot of friends in common and I'm loving your writing! I had to laugh at the crying list, because my hubs grew up in Bellevue and that Macklemore song gets him EVERY TIME.

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    1. Woah cool! Who are our common friends?? Washingtoners! They are such loyalists.

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    2. I graduated from TAC in 2010 and my uncle is a Dillon, so I know (and miss!) the lovely group of young Catholic SoCal dwellers :). And yes, I'm pretty sure I'll never cure my husband of his dream of moving back to Washington!

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  11. Beautiful! And anyone who doesn't cry during the one shining moment montage has a heart of steel... ;)

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  12. I love your blog Blythe and this story is so fun! Seeing your baby faces in those pics is good too:) Adorable!

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    1. Oh, yeah!! Photo creed: Mary Hawblitzel!!! We owe all those lovely shots to you!! I love that you were right there with us:) xo

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  13. I did not want it to end. I mean, I wanted the proposal to happen for you (and duh, you are married and five kids together), but your story was so incredibly sweet. And beautifully written. I agree with another commenter - the wedding story should be next!

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  14. So sweet! I was also a smidge of crazy during the wait for the ring and cracked bad jokes before I looked over and realized Hubby wasn't walking next to me, he was kneeling.

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  15. Aww, I just read all three parts of your love story. I love reading how people met their future spouses! I have a short version of my husband and mine's own story up on my blog, but your post(s) inspires me to want to elaborate with all the good details.

    My husband and I also met and fell in love in L.A. (though neither of us grew up here), and considering that you mentioned then movie Garden State also played a part in your early relationship, I'm assuming that we've been together with our husbands for similar periods of time (also, weirdly, right now on Pandora the Frou Frou song "Let Go" from the Garden State soundtrack is playing...creepy?...)

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  16. Your wedding was gorgeous! I love the twinkle lights at night! I was the same way at our wedding. I like NEVER cry but once I was walking down the aisle it was a gush of waterworks! You guys look so happy!

    Much love!

    Sydney at twineinteriors.com

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  17. Hilarious, and lovely, and so so so touching. <3

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